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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a 43 year old woman and have only a few acquaintances/casual friends and no close friends. I've found it very hard to make good friends and have been trying for 10 years without much luck.

I am always the initiator and invite acquaintances/new acquaintances to do things a lot.  What I've noticed is that women are happy to accept my invitations but never invite me to do anything.  I can't remember the last time another mom or female friend invited me out for coffee, a walk, or anything.  I usually invite other women to get together about once a month or so, to do something like brunch, a walk, coffee, and I wait a few months in between invitations with the same person.  In other words, if I invite Jen for lunch in March, I'll wait until June to invite her for coffee next.  I also don't get invited to birthday parties for friends or holiday celebrations.  I feel invisible and overlooked.  If I didn't reach out and do all this inviting, no one would reach out to me and I would be friendless.

I feel that the problem is that other women think I'm nice enough, but don't think of me as someone they would make the effort to reach out to.  I feel like I have plenty in common with these other moms/women, and I feel like our conversations go well.  I'm not sure how I can fix this problem and therapy has been no help.  Any advice?[/quote]

Maybe you are attracted to the wrong type of women. Why are you only going after moms? Moms are busy. Go after women who don’t have children—they usually have more free time. Same for older women with older children. 
Find other lonely women. You’ll have more luck. And stay in your league. Friendship and dating are similar. Don’t pick women out of your league.

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