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[quote=Anonymous]I have felt as you do, at times. A couple of comments:

- most women are BUSY. Very very busy. Beyond that, many have a pretty full social calendar with family obligations and older friends (unless they are newer to the area, and/or don’t have family around). While they are pleased with the invitation (and they often accept), they may not think to initiate things. After being the one to initiate 95% of the time for years, I placed a friend on the back burner and didn’t do so for awhile. She did eventually contact me to initiate plans, & even followed up when I waffled. She values the friendship but is just busy, and has gotten used to me being the one doing the inviting. I don’t think this is all that uncommon.

- I’ve found there are a fair number of women who already have a small tight knit group (sometimes extended family, other times old friends) and truly just are not open to new friends or interested in making new friends.

- Given how busy most people are, it is a lot easier to be seeing them in regular more organic ways to build an initial friendship. Neighbors, other parents on your kid’s sports team, exercise/fitness class, pottery class, volunteer work or whatever. It is extremely difficult to develop a friendship from a “well we chatted a few times, and then I asked you to coffee” sort of thing. Much easier if it is someone you already see twice a week at spin class or on your morning walk or whatever. . [/quote]

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