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[quote=Anonymous]This whole thread is exhausting.

OP, make friends organically. Trying to force "mom friends" is a losing approach. If your kids get along, that's enough. Using your kid as a pawn to hook up with other moms is creepy and fake, and easy to spot. We're moms. We're all exhausted and forcing a fake friendship isn't going to help anyone. Plus, if all you have to offer a "friend" is this lonely, whiny drivel, well, that's why you don't have friends. It's the old "you're bored because you're boring".

Make regular time to go do things you like. Maybe you'll meet someone friendly in pottery class. Don't invite anyone anywhere for 6 months, or even a year. Go out, explore, and just focus on finding things you legitimately enjoy doing. Chances are better that you'll connect with someone who shares at least one of your interests. "Mom friends" are the absolute worst kind of friends, because your kids will probably only get along for a short while, and if that's all your "friendship" is based on, well, there it goes. There's a reason most moms don't work super hard to connect with other moms just because they're moms. The woman in your ceramics class who also happens to be a mom is a better, well-rounded friend opportunity.

Learn how to make small talk. No goals, not trying to solicit an invitation or further contact. People love it when you're just in the moment, focused on them. They want to be around it more, and they tend to invite you into their lives for more of it. You'll be less lonely when you're more comfortable being alone.

Whining about how "friends don't like you enough" just says you need to dump them and work on yourself so you'll attract better/actual friends.[/quote]

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