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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would try to save the marriage. People make mistakes. You owe it to your children to see if it can salvaged.[/quote]

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Cheating on your marriage is not a "mistake." It's a deliberate move to hurt someone you no longer care about or value. And no, spare me some BS on how people can cheat and still "love" their spouse. Loving someone doesn' involve intentionally hurting them because of your selfish wants.
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I love how black and white everyone likes to make out this is. But life is long and difficult and complicated. People get into situations that they don’t intend to. They make bad decisions. They lose their way. They hurt people without meaning to.

A lot of marriages recover from infidelity. Sometimes, perhaps rarely, they even end up stronger.

Calling names and seizing the moral high ground feels good, but OP needs to find the best way forward as a mature adult with responsibilities. Most notably, the kids.[/quote]

It is black and white, but you are right that many people can forgive and move past betrayal.  Cheating is always wrong, but evil actions are not always the end of the story.  The final outcome does not retroactively make evil good or the immoral moral, their history will always be tainted, but they can overcome it with a lot of hard work and determination.[/quote]

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