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[quote=Anonymous]There was a woman like this in my mom's group when my kid was a baby. Similar size group, everyone was friendly, except this one mom was super cold to me.

It turned out she was annoyed because she felt like she had a special 1:1 friendship with one of the other moms in the group, who she had met before the rest of us, but that mom turned out to be a close neighbor of mine and also we worked in the same field. So we kind of naturally became more connected due to proximity and things in common. The mom who didn't like me felt I'd "stolen" her close mom friend.

This was years and years ago. I'm still loosely friends with everyone in the group except the one who didn't like me. Ironically, literally every member of this group has moved out of the neighborhood (including the one who didn't like me) except me. The one who was my close neighbor and is in my industry only moved to another part of the city, so I still see her sometimes. Everyone else moved out of the city including two people who moved abroad. One of them I text with a lot, the rest I just interact with on social media (again, except the one who didn't like me who is not connected to me on social media).

It's funny thinking about this now. When your kids are little, life can be pretty isolating and it feels like these mom relationships are super important. And in a way they are -- I get why this one friendship was so important to this other woman. But also, that time in your life winds up being kind of a blip. If you have other kids, the idea of having lockstep friends with the parents of kids in your eldest cohort falls by the wayside -- you have to spread yourself out for your other kids. People move, change jobs, kids move schools, kids personalities evolve and they choose their own friends. It all just goes away.

I hope that mom who was mad at me all those years ago is over it, and has a good support system and is happy. There were times when her behavior hurt me (I was also a new mom and had my own insecurities and challenges) but I recognize it wasn't about me.

TL;DR -- I'd just let it go, assume it's something you have no control over, and stay friendly with everyone else. She will either come around or she won't, but in a year or two this group won't even exist and everyone will have moved on. Try not to let it bug you too much.[/quote]

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