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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS is a freshman. He has a big school dance coming up and asked a sweet girl, who happens to be Indian and has strict parents. Her parents apparently don’t know she is going to the dance or that she is “dating” DS. Dating for them so far means meeting for ice cream after school and FaceTiming late at night.

Do I do anything?? I don’t like that she’s lying to her parents. He says she’s frustrated and doesn’t care. I will be meeting her in person tomorrow and plan to offer to meet her parents with DS. What else should I do? [/quote]

We are Asian-Americans and we don’t condone dating for our 14 year old DD. We don’t have any issues with her having close friends of the opposite sex. She hangs out with friends of both sexes. We don’t like the idea of her being exclusive with anyone at this early age. There’s an expectation that they need to be something different or more when they are ‘dating’. She has plenty of time to date later in HS and college.

If a boy’s parent approached us about their son dating out daughter, we would tell them the same. [/quote]

I’m PP. For us, it’s not a racial and ethnicity, she can be friends with whomever. [b]Our issue is age.[/b][/quote]

Speakiing of age it does not bode well that at 14 op's sone feels he has the right to do what he pleases  and mom just goes along with it. He will be impossible at 16, mom will posting about if it's okay if his girlfriend spends the night in his room or if 16 is too young for spring break week.  There are so many posts with out of control 14 year olds  lately I wonder if it's some troll.[/quote]

I am not PP but I do have a 14 year old son (who is not dating yet and doesn’t seem to have any interest in doing so). My 14yo son is allowed to (1) FaceTime with friends- male or female  (2) see friends after school- again, male or female-  for ice cream etc as long as he has asked permission and I know where he is, and (3) attend school dances. Which is what the OP’s son is also doing. My son is definitely not “out of control” 🤣 If DS’s friends have other rules or are not allowed to do the above things, that is between them and their parents and is one of my concern. If their DD is not allowed to do these things, it is their job to monitor more closely.[/quote]

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