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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We need to know why the newborn visit was requested for that particular day.[/quote]

OP here - no specific reason, just made sense to have the visit as soon as things have settled down at the hospital. The day of the birth is always chaotic and it wouldn't be helpful to have the grandparent there that day. [/quote]

Of course grandma should visit the newborn in the hospital (or, the first day at home).  Absolutely!  This is a once in a lifetime. [/quote]

OP here - How upset would you be if grandma asked whether it's ok to visit after the birthday party or the following day? You said she'd rather not come after the party due to concern about infectious risk.
Upset enough you would tell them not to bother coming if it's not that day/time? 
Just trying to gage what people think is a "reasonable" reaction, everyone is welcome to answer. [/quote]

I am a PP and, again, I think it being a brand newborn changes things. Yes, she is a difficult person, but she literally just had a baby. Her hormones are crazy. She's in pain. She's exhausted. And where I live illness IS crazy right now. Kids are dropping like flies in school due to whooping cough (which is not presenting in a typical fashion because they are older) and pneumonia. Is it unlikely that grandma will catch something and then pass it along a few hours later? Yes, but now is not a rational time.

If you are just done with her and want to go visit your other kid, that's a valid choice. But having a newborn is hard. This might be the one time her self centered request is actually pretty reasonable.[/quote]

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