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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I do agree that a gender traditionalist wife and mom sort of puts her DH in a box if he wants to be more flexible, share the income-earning, and share the time with the kids:

Wife: "No, no, really, honey, I got it, you just go to work. I'll do everythign else."

DH: "Umm, but I want to see the kids more than just late at night and on weekends? Can I chaperone some field trips? Maybe we can go 1/2 and 1/2?"

Wife: "NO! I don't want to work outside the home! You just go to work and stay there until I tell you it's time to come home for your hot dinner!"

DH: (Sad) "Oh. . okay. . ."  [/quote]

I just spit my coffee out laughing.[b] Come on, no dad or mom is every going to have that conversation.[/b] I don't care whether you work our of the home or one parent stays at home. No one is every angling for more kid care or field trip duty time. This doesn't mean that parents don't want to spend time with kids or do things but the reality is that most parents feel overwhelmed with the amount of kid, work, and housework that they already are doing.

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I have to disagree with this. I think that this dynamic prevails in some situations. What I am about to say is inflammatory, but I believe it happens in some families some of the time. SAHM develops the parenting aspect of her identity and loses the professional ambition aspect. Because of other factors, perhaps she becomes even more "mom" and less "friend," "wife," etc. When WOHD tries to take responsibility at home, SAHM protects her identity by insisting she is the best or only person to take responsibility at home. 
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