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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Use money or whatever currency she values, to bribe her. I have a son like this, super shy. We were at a holiday party and I told him I would give him money for each person he audibly said hi to.  Start small and try to make it a game. He doesn't like greeting friends outside school. Same bribe. He didn't immediately go and say hi to gazillion people but he said hi to a couple and I think it slowly normalizes the experience and he knows it didn't kill him or anything.

This son also does an instrument that has recitals. I use money again to bribe. It worked, and he was able to do it the second time when he couldn't the first time. I think it helped him view the recital as not just this painful experience for no reason, but as a way to earn money. With that end goal to focus on, he was able to withstand the discomfort better. I am hoping these paid experiences teach him that these events are survivable and can turn into a source of pride. And of course he is also learning to regulate that overwhelming shyness.[/quote]
Absolutely do not do this. Wow.[/quote]

DP but my child has selective mutism and social anxiety and therapists use rewards systems all the time in exposure therapy. Maybe not physical money, but a token system that a child can exchange for prizes of their choice when they’ve successfully completed a little challenge like ordering food, saying hi to a new person, etc. it actually works really well. [/quote]

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