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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you mean like there's a physical task he normally can do and then one day he suddenly can't? Or that he never can do certain things?[/quote]

Op here. I wouldn’t say he’s declining but I also wonder if having someone step in to help when he struggled with things has left him a bit unable to do it for himself too. I worry about that aspect of day to day, oftentimes when he was confused by something we would step in and help him essentially doing the “job” but giving him credit for it. In hindsight, the same was happening and still is happening at school. I recently called to see if he had packed his sandwich in his lunch box, his teacher went to check and rather than have him confirm, confirmed for him.

I wonder if he’s not been given enough independence to learn how but because he struggled with things, I believe we all assumed we were helping him not hindering him.

I just can’t narrow down.

I have asked two sets of different pediatric groups for referrals and assistance to no avail outside of that initial evaluation. Because it happens at home and at school, I don’t know if it is possibly social anxiety, which is usually the only thing the doctor will mention if anything. [/quote]

Op, I need to throw some ice water on this.

People are doing things for him because they understand he isn't capable. 
Children are naturally independent and not only progress when they can but become irate when they aren't allowed to. 
It's been the norm to find excuses for behavior we don't understand  (others are doing it for him, it's too much screen time, his mom held him too much, his mom didn't hold him enough) but children develop typically no matter the circumstances - short of extreme cases of neglect or abuse.

Your son may have the list of conditions others are describing but he may also have a hidden biological issue. I strongly recommend you seek help above even the  neuropsych,  although that may be a start.
Where are you located?[/quote]

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