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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me do you a favor I wish someone did for me when I was younger: if someone wants to reach out and get in touch or reply to you, they will. It's so easy to do (and easier today than it was when I was younger).

Give it up. This kind of thing does not change. He is not waiting for a sign that he is interested in you after all. He just...doesn't feel the pull. To be social, to respond to messages, to respond to you.

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I thought about giving up multiple times and considered not even telling him that I'm leaving my phone behind for a month and not sharing my new phone number. He does sound depressed, and my birthday falls on my trip, and I thought if he reaches out and receives no response for a couple of weeks, he might start worrying. [/quote]

If you were to ask chat GPT why this is manipulation this is what you would get:

This situation can be considered a mind game because it involves indirect communication, emotional manipulation, and a test of emotional response, rather than clear, honest dialogue. Let’s break it down:

Why It Can Be Seen as a Mind Game
1. Withholding Communication Intentionally
“Considered not even telling him that I'm leaving my phone behind for a month and not sharing my new number.”

This is a conscious decision to create uncertainty for the other person.

Instead of expressing your needs or boundaries, you're opting to disappear, leaving the other person to guess.

2. Testing Emotional Response
“I thought if he reaches out and receives no response... he might start worrying.”

This introduces a test of care or concern: "Will he worry? Will he reach out?"

The lack of response isn’t just a side effect of going off-grid—it's being used as a gauge of his feelings.

3. Exploiting Timing (Birthday)
“My birthday falls on my trip…”

This raises the emotional stakes. Not telling him where you are or that you're unreachable on your birthday invites guilt, confusion, or sadness—especially if he’s already struggling emotionally.[/quote]
I didn't mean it as a manipulation, just really considered giving up and removing the temptation to reach out myself (since there was no contact of his on the new phone). I actually asked ChatGPT before making the decision! It said that although he'll take me back when I come back after my disappearance, it might stain the relationship. [/quote]

"take you back" doesn't apply as you two are not dating or anything. [/quote]
I know, but this is what Chatgpt said - probably meant taking back as a friend. [/quote]

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