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Sounds like what he shared is valid 
Work on it - seek therapy.

Will say .. now that you’re a parent.. You’re  going to be faced with plenty of non perfect situations you absolutely can’t control.  Saddle up. [/quote]

I’m not a parent yet. I’m due next month. I really wanted a vaginal birth but I’m crushed now that we will have a scheduled c-section. I really wanted to avoid a c-section unless it was an emergency.

I know I’m hard to handle and like things the way I do. I think my issues stem from growing up in a dysfunction home with a very critical mom and stepdad who had no issues talking about people ( including me) if I was single for too long, gained weight, not making enough money, etc.[/quote]

Seems to me the real issue is that you have no interest in changing. And it’s going to be a hard road for your husband and child to deal with a wife/mother is a perfectionist. [/quote]
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Quickly start working on this or you’re going to have a long road ahead of you and a miserable child and dh. The whole idea of a birth plan is ridiculous, esp for a first time delivery. Sure there can be things that you think sound more appealing than others but to get so rigid and want to micromanage everything is insane and will only set you up for disappointment. Now you are wasting what should be one of the happiest times of your life sulking and not enjoying the last little child free bit which should be lovely and stress free. 
For what it’s worth, I had to have a c-section w/ my first delivery. I had zero expectations or preferences, just wanted whatever would be healthiest for the babies. I had some medical issues in the pregnancy that made it necessary. The c section and recovery were basically a non-event and very easy. My second birth I asked for a c-section just bc I assumed I’d end up with the same issue and ultimately need one. I went into labor bed the c-section date. At the hospital they said I was the perfect candidate for a vbac so I went for it. It was terrible and needed forceps, and I’ve had lingering issues ever since. My final delivery, I insisted on a c-section and he was again uneventful. My point is that a C-section can be a lot easier and uneventful than a regular delivery. [/quote]

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