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Sounds like what he shared is valid 
Work on it - seek therapy.

Will say .. now that you’re a parent.. You’re  going to be faced with plenty of non perfect situations you absolutely can’t control.  Saddle up. [/quote]

I’m not a parent yet. I’m due next month. I really wanted a vaginal birth but I’m crushed now that we will have a scheduled c-section. I really wanted to avoid a c-section unless it was an emergency.

I know I’m hard to handle and like things the way I do. [b]I think my issues stem from growing up in a dysfunction home with a very critical mom and stepdad who had no issues talking about people ( including me) if I was single for too long, gained weight, not making enough money, etc.[/b][/quote]

Yes, that is all probably true. And: therapy can help you change those things.

I am going to warn you in the strongest possible terms: your kid is not your project. They will have their own preferences, dreams, desires—they are not there for you to perfect. The sooner you get started figuring out how to mitigate this tendency in yourself, the better you will parent.

Your risk for PPD is also significantly higher than average. All the more reason to get a therapeutic relationship underway.[/quote]

All of this, op.  Please listen to this person.  Having a child is humbling in so many ways.  A change in your birth plan is just the first of many changes in plans you’ll be facing.

It’s great that you have some insight into why you’re like this.  The next step is learning to adjust to changes, despite your discomfort with it.  [/quote]

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