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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perhaps other parents can heed your question as a cautionary tale. The answer is that you build up resilience the same way you build your own child’s independence and responsibility. You slowly learn how to parent like it’s 1992.
If you track your child’s location - stop. start by not tracking them for day to day activities close to home, then stop tracking on weekends  unless they miss curfew, then stop all together and ask them to check in when they arrive or when plans change. If you read their messages, stop.

Raise your kids to make good decisions and then trust them. If you say “I trust my kids but what about all the danger in the world I can’t control?” Well, you can’t control it. Worrying will not change that, it only keeps you from enjoying your life. [/quote]

If knowing your 18 yo is home safely in their dorm/apt on a Sat night at 2am helps you sleep track them.  You can track their location/check it and not say anything to your kid if they are still at the frats/out.   The issue comes when you are obsessed with it. I only track late at night (kid is female on a campus that borders a bad area and her apt is at edge of that area.  So yes I might check late at night to make sure she's home safe.  But if she isn't I rarely comment because I usually know where she is.

But I rarely mention anything about it.  It's a safety tool for us[/quote]

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