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[quote=Anonymous][size=9] [/size][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, caring for an infant is not "being a parent".  If he is picking up all the other slack right now and letting you be the primary infant carer, it doesn't mean he sucks as a parent.  Newborns are newborns for a matter of months.  Not every great parent is great at every stage, and this one is REALLY short.[/quote]

I strongly disagree with your statement. Parenting is caring for your child. The rest is being a capable adult. [/quote]

No.  I went back to work when my child was 8 weeks old, and an incredibly capable, loving woman cared for him in her home,  she soothed him and rocked him and fed him bottles.  She was NOT his parent.

I get that you want help, OP, and I get that you're disappointed, but you mentally labeling him as a bad parent is NOT helping things.  You are a team and this - newborn care - is not his strength yet.  And maybe it never will be.  Maybe his strength is going to be in the Tween years...all of a sudden, my DH is the default parent and the preferred parent in this stage, and guess what?  It lasts longer than the newborn phase which I was brilliant at.  If I labeled my DH a terrible parent before we barely started the newborn phase (which he didn't rock until he solo parented for a while) would he have the confidence to be such a good dad now?  No.[/quote]

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