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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hello, I come here looking for some hope. My spouse had a really great career going at one place for 15 years. Life got expensive as our kids began getting older, etc and I work in education (low paid). So, my husband traded in his long time career for a job that would pay more, thinking he was climbing the ladder. Soon after, that company got bought out and he was laid off. He has been unemployed for about a year. He had severance for part of it. We have been on unemployment and living off all the savings we have. He has had tons and tons of interviews with no results. I have been in a state of fight or flight this entire time. It has completely ruined our marriage and my mental health- the instability, lack of control and no end in sight.When I think about the poor choice (of leaving his other job for something so unstable) that got us here, it makes me sick and feel so sad for him. Its been a huge loss in so many ways. We are in our mid 40s, for reference. Has anyone been in this position and things worked out? Weve never had a situation like this with unemployment and I feel hopeless. [/quote]

Has he spoken to his prior boss at old company?   Any openings there he can apply for?

Did you budget and cut all spending when he was laid off?   No Netflix.  No eating out.  No kids activities.  Get the cheapest phone plan.  Basically only spend $ on basics.  No new clothes for the kids.  No new shoes.  If they outgrow go to a second hand shop.  If you own 2 cars sell a car if you need. Dog walk. Tutor.  Whatever you can do to save money and budget.

You don't say what you do in education, but can you move up?  Principal?  Head of School?  Special Ed?  Something where you'll make more money.  If not can you tutor, work in summer, etc, to make more money?  Many people want tutors for their kids and especially tutors in the summer.

It is hard out there as many people are unemployed.  People I know have been looking for 12 months.  After the last recession I was out of my career for a long time and had to take whatever I could get and then switched industries.  I moved and had to live with family and did what I had to do.  Maybe you'll have to do that.

Any family or friends you can ask for help or a loan?  Have you talked to friends so they know your husband was laid off and is looking?  People want to help how they can, even if that means free babysitting while you take a second job, give you a meal so you don't have to make one, or try and use their network for your husband.

Where did your DH attend university or grad school?  Connect with career services or attend an alumni networking event.  Maybe he can look into interview prep.  If you can't pay for a coach, ask friends if they will help.  Any friends in roles similar or HR if they would mock interview with your DH and give pointers.

If you own a house can you look into renting or selling it?

I don't mean to dig in, but everyone should have 9-12 months (maybe more now) in an emergency fund, so that if you are out of work for that period you are not going into your savings.

Good luck, OP.  Can you give an idea of industry and if you're in the DMV?  We can help with ideas this is an anonymous forum! [/quote]

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