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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hello, I come here looking for some hope. My spouse had a really great career going at one place for 15 years. Life got expensive as our kids began getting older, etc and I work in education (low paid). So, my husband traded in his long time career for a job that would pay more, thinking he was climbing the ladder. Soon after, that company got bought out and he was laid off. He has been unemployed for about a year. He had severance for part of it. We have been on unemployment and living off all the savings we have. He has had tons and tons of interviews with no results. I have been in a state of fight or flight this entire time. It has completely ruined our marriage and my mental health- the instability, lack of control and no end in sight.When I think about the poor choice (of leaving his other job for something so unstable) that got us here, it makes me sick [b]and feel so sad for him.[/b] Its been a huge loss in so many ways. We are in our mid 40s, for reference. Has anyone been in this position and things worked out? Weve never had a situation like this with unemployment and I feel hopeless. [/quote]

The bolded stood out to me. This specifically did not happen to me, but something similar where DH took an uninformed risk that cost us $$$. I resented his carelessness and lack of due diligence, but tried to
Hide it. But I know he was extremely embarrassed and was disappointed in himself. As a 50yo mom, I have had my share of anxiety and depression. I have been in therapy, have coping skills, and take SSRI. He had serious regrets, sleepless nights, and racing thoughts. Being this low was all so new for him, that I feared for his mental Well being. I was sad for my DH  too. [/quote]

Thank you for sharing. Yes lots of people here are calling me selfish and not noticing that part where I actually feel heartbroken for him because I know how much he loved his career and I was proud of all he did to obtain it and get where he was, as was he. Its so sad and feels like a nightmare we cant wake up from.[/quote]

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