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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]dad here, lawyer at midsize firm.  zero chance I am home in Vienna before 7:30pm.  and a few times a month, or more, I have board meetings, business development, etc.  When I was in biglaw it would have been impossible to get home before 9pm.

So let me know, and if the answer is what I expect, how do you explain to your family?[/quote]

DH and I are both practicing lawyers, both working full time. We make it a family priority to eat dinner together as a family every night. We eat at 6:30.  Coincidentally, we also live in Vienna, and my DH commutes to DC.

We do this by declining evening obligations as much as possible, going to work super early, working at home after dinner and being happy with secure but low to medium powered careers. Our HHI is over $300,000 though so not any financial sacrifice to do it this way.[/quote]

this is the OP.   getting to work early would not make a difference, unless I could change all of my co-workers and clients. I need to be there when they need me. and yes, if your combined HHI is $300K you are making a sacrifice.  That is fine for you and I'm happy it works out, but my target in a few years is approx $350-400K or so myself.  besides, it cuts my commute in half if I can get on 66.  [/quote]

Hey OP, I'm sorry to be judgmental since you are obviously trying to make more family time but $300K HHI is not a "sacrifice."  If you want to pursue your career goals of making $350k-400k, then unless you are in charge of your own schedule, in most jobs, clearly you are not making it home for family dinner at 6pm.    I am the PP who is a 2 lawyer family who has dinner at 6pm nearly every night.  Our HHI is probably $250k.  We own a house in DC, have 30 minute commutes via metro and have zero financial stress.  I would not trade in our comfortable life (including family dinners) to make an extra $150k.  But you do.  You can't have it all.[/quote]

Amen, PP! We are the same - combined HHI of just over $250K and dinner every night at home with our little one.  We own a house near in, short commute, and sure, we aren't swimming in money and don't jet off for fabulous mediterranean vacations, but we don't worry about money and I'm thrilled that my DS is already noting how we have dinner at our house and his friend's families don't.[/quote]

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