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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There should be cards that say,"So you gave birth." That's more fitting.[/quote]
Right, because the important thing is to make sure you carry forward the legacy of hurting other people.

My mother was young (19/20) and didn't want a baby, but my much older father threatened to divorce her if she had an abortion. She was a college student, graduate student, etc until she was eventually a professor. And she had horrific untreated bipolar disease. She was beyond abusive to me. Eventually, as a young adult I separated myself from her totally. My father played a big part in her disease being untreated, and when they divorced she finally got serious treatment. It took years of work on her part, tons of therapy and experimenting with medications, but she finally reached a place of healing. We have a beautiful relationship now, one that grew slowly over time as she earned my trust and I got to know her as a healthy person. We are probably more like sisters or Aunt/niece as she did not really "mother" me. We can't undo the past, but we don't have to remain mired in it either. I'm so glad that I sought therapy for myself early on, and that I never struck out at her. I took the steps that were necessary to protect myself, but I had no desire to make her suffer.[/quote]

Obviously PP was being sarcastic and I have no desire to have an unnecessarily negative relationship with anyone in my immediate family BUT.. your mom clearly had difficult circumstances and worked hard to overcome them to have a positive relationship with you. Some parents never change, even in their relationship with their adult children.[/quote]
I have never seen a DCUM mother described as more abusive than my own mother. Yes, she did eventually after 30 years begin serious treatment. I didn't get sarcasm from OP or most of these comments. My issue with a lot of these people is not feelings of sadness or anger. It's the vengeance. If you are fantasizing about hurting someone, you aren't healed.[/quote]

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