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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a kid who went to TJ and had a 504. At least when kid was there, there was maybe 3 or 4 kids with disabilities per year. (I don’t know if that has been increased…..) Your list seems it can be over come, except “refusal to study”. That’s a pretty BIG one. What does your kid want? Do they want to stay at TJ? Approx 10% of each freshman class transfer back to their local high school after year 1.

While TJ isn’t the 2am up every night hotbox people make it out to be, “refusal to study” wouldn’t work no matter who the kid was. Even the kids that go to MIT have to study and do homework. I would argue the super advanced kids have to do even more work because they get put into post-AP classes early.
In terms of college acceptances, being from TJ isn’t an advantage so if your kid doesn’t want to do the work, just place them back in their local high school. [/quote]

Kid doesn't want to go back to base school. I agree that refusal to study is not going to work long term at TJ or in college. Sending kid back to base will not solve the refusal to study but it will enable the behavior to continue. I didn't realize this wasn't just a I-dont-need-study but a much more strong refusal akin to the food aversion also akin to the needs a week notification about schedule changes. It seems like this is getting beyond average teenage stubbornness. It's definitely a pattern that permeates all aspects of life.[/quote]

I have a kid with autism and a high IQ. The refusal to study is most likely a reaction to your kid feeling stressed/anxious/afraid he can't understand the material and not wanting to feel that way. It's anxiety and a freeze-up so he doesn't have to endure feeling confused/uncomfortable. It is incredibly common in autistic kids. If the content were easy, he probably wouldn't be afraid to study. (He might not *need* to study either). The solution is usually to scale things down so they feel less resistance/fear. For example, easier classes.
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I don’t disagree with you, but I also don’t really trust OP’s narrative. She describes the kid as being motivated (eg to self study math over the summer) but refusing to study, yet then somehow finishing and acing the test. So I really think it may be she is just trying to control how he studies, which is apparently actually effective for him. [/quote]

I guess you missed the part where kid volunteered to teach themselves math, didn't actually do the work then did all of the work right before the deadline and got a perfect score. [/quote]

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