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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This calls my mother's third marriage to mind.

Her third DH wouldn't get her an engagement ring at all, because he'd bought a nice one for his first wife and "it didn't work out." My mother said she didn't "need one" and it would be a "waste of money" while secretly feeling horrible about it but never speaking up. It was just one sign of how he wasn't ever going to be all-in on the marriage the way he was with his first, and also a sign of how he enjoyed withholding and controlling with his second. The relationship with my mother was transactional for him, and he was only going to "buy" at a "steep discount." And he made it clear and it was very hurtful (and like an idiot she married him anyway).

YMMV quite a bit, of course. But I wouldn't accept less than what the first wife got, unless finances had tanked in an extreme way or something.

As far as diamonds go, I know a bit about them and have quite a few mined diamonds ... but today? I'd absolutely buy lab. I'm 100% for lab. For many reasons. [/quote]

I can’t believe you think the problem was the lack of a diamond. [/quote]

Your reading comprehension is very poor.

Clearly I do not think "the problem was the lack of a diamond." The lack of the diamond was a sign of the problem and a harbinger.[/quote]

And those problems would have existed regardless of jewelry, and had other signs.  Focusing on the ring is dumb.

I have ten aunts/uncles and only divorce.  In that marriage, the woman didn’t change her name.  So are all women who keep their name in sufficiently dedicated to marriage?  No.  Same for your mother’s third marriage, which was clearly doomed to fail for many reasons unrelated to diamonds.  [/quote]

People should pay attention to early warning signs about how they will be treated and about how the other person views the marriage. Many do not. OP should pay attention. The fact that you cannot understand this doesn't mean it isn't so. [/quote]

DP. I am sure there were early warning signs before this one. [/quote]

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