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[quote=Anonymous]Given the choice, I would rather have a supportive mostly-unemployed man in my life than a salaried slacker. I've done it both ways.

My partner (not the father of my child) lost his last W2 job three years ago-- dying industry, ageism-- about a year after he moved in with me. He has some freelance work, so I don't have to give him an allowance or anything, but I carry the bulk of the household expenses.

Having him holding down the homefront has been transformational for my career. My salary has almost doubled since he shifted to support mode; I come home from work (or emerge from my home office) to a clean house, a stocked fridge, meals prepped. He keeps an eye on things like dog supplies and home maintenance needs. He plugs in for kid needs (although these are minimal with a increasingly independent teen.) I did all that when I was married and earning the same salary as my then-husband. My partner is also very sweet and affectionate, and always on the lookout for ways to show love.

If he were contributing his 20% (or whatever) and doing nothing else? Sitting around playing video games and wallowing in his own squalor and leaving chores for me to do? He'd be out. Everyone must contribute to the household, however they are able. [/quote]

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