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[quote=Anonymous]Boarding school grad here. This can go a couple of ways but the one thing it sounds like you have going for you is that your child is leading the process which is so important. The kids who thrive the most at boarding school are the ones who really really want to be there and take the lead in suggesting, pursuing, and asking to attend. The ones who don't are the ones who are pressured into it, who are homesick or nervous more than they are excited, whose families function in a way that is just like "you go to boarding school because that's what we do," or whose parents are too busy to be present parents and choose to send them away early out of convenience or necessity; seen some really disturbing stuff in these regards, some of it subtle but still very serious. Again, this doesn't sound like you.

Another thing that can mess a kid up is the pervasive affluence. Even well-off kids can feel other-ized in the face of families with such grotesque wealth. This really depends on individual circumstances, personalities, and social circles. Of course this can happen in wealther public or private day schools and certainly college, but 4 more years of growth at home is absolutely a buffer against it.

If your child is genuinely 101% on board and you are ok with that, I don't see an issue so long as you are open to changing your mind for the following year should things not go as planned. There is nothing wrong with that, and it will be on you to analyze the situation beyond just what they say about how they feel about their experience. Boarding school is really wonderful for some kids, but I would not even say it's the majority of kids at boarding schools (many of whom do well but will find later in life that maybe there was a sadness about it). [/quote]

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