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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You haven't said anything that lets us offer helpful feedback.

What responsibility are you shouldering? How big a paycheck? What access do you have to the money he makes? ARE you expecting too much? Can't say without knowing what you expect. [/quote]

He is an active father but sucks at anything house related. I do all the shopping, cooking, managing outsourcing crews, 95% of the childcare, scheduling/taking kids to appointments, handling childcare.

I work part time making 60k. He works full time and makes 400-500k a year.

I have full access to our money.

I just want him to step up more with the household labor. He has said he is busy working to support our family to give me the ability to stay home. [/quote]
He’s not entirely wrong. Since you’re working part-time you have more time to spend on running the household. He probably still works longer hours than you.[/quote]

This argument sucks.  Don’t be so certain about the hours thing.  Taking care of the household is a 100% no time off job.

I’m the DW, make over $500k (W2), and despite being the higher earner our entire relationship I handle more stuff.

OP you need to outsource EVERYTHING you don’t want to do that he is unwilling to do.  Some the best / fun / meaningful / required kid stuff and farm out groceries (instacart), cleaning (at least weekly housekeeping - I used to do 2x/wk when kids were young), full service landscaping on an annual contract, regular / consistent babysitters on rotation for swing shifts when you need it, etc.  Then you’re just dealing with the calendar and general mental load plus transportation.  And that’s still a LOT.

If he’s “too busy” or “stressed” but still golfs (as an example) because “it’s important for work” well guess what - YOU are important for his work, too.  You have the funds at that $450-550k annual to do all this unless your mortgage is bonkers.

I unburden you of the garbage!  Go seize what you want.  [/quote]

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