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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I only read the first page, but I really think this seems like a problem that isn't a problem, or it's a you (not your kid) problem. I agree you seem too invested, I say that gently. Your kid might not be GREAT but it seems like you are going to create an issue where there really isn't that big of one, at most. And this will likely work itself out anyway. My advice is step away[/quote]

If you're new to a tight-knit community in 4th grade - the kind of place where most kids have known each other since kinder or maybe even preschool - then you do have to be somewhat intentional about helping your kids make friends.  I'm not talking about social engineering, but I think OP is doing right by her DD to find out what EC activities the girls in her school community sign up for, where they go to camp, etc.  And by hosting playdates.  I 100% agree with others to continue doing so even if the reciprocation is not equally there.  Your DD is the new one!  If you have the bandwidth, who cares?  But also, maybe branch out a bit -- surely these girls are not the only ones at the school?  [/quote]

This is OP, and thank you for understanding our situation.  As to branching out, DD initially hung out with girls in her class, but she doesn’t really gel with them.  She will be in a different class next year, with the majority of this group of girls, so I’m hoping that either this will allow her to get closer to them, or she will click with other girls in her new class.[/quote]

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