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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Keep inviting kids for playdates, even if their moms don’t reciprocate. Host one-on-one play dates and also an occasional group get-together. The point is for your DD to develop relationships with them and have fun with them. Those goals are furthered even if you are the only one who hosts every time. And the more she hangs out with them, the more she will become part of the group. [/quote]

Agree with this 100%.  If you are unfortunately socially peripheral to the main clique but your daughter is liked, you will have to work harder. Don't take it personally, even though that is tempting.

I also agree that friend groups change a lot over years.

Encourage your daughter to stay calm and friendly.  No social outcome is worth feeling bad about.  But you might explain that the people who have the most social lives are the ones who are extremely extroverted.  And that behavior is a choice as well as an innate temperament tendency.[/quote]

Thanks for the advice.  I do feel bad, and I shouldn’t, and I certainly need to encourage DD not to as well, and to be chill about it.  DD is on the more sensitive, introverted side, so wouldn’t naturally become the social center of the group even if she had started school in kindergarten anyway.[/quote]

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