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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]most people probably don’t marry the best sex of their life. [/quote][/quote]

Agree, but you should at least know what good "is" before committing to a life partner, otherwise, you could end up with someone really selfish and bad in bed. [/quote]

You don’t need multiple partners to know that someone is selfish and that you haven’t had an o.[/quote]

This! If your partner isn't having reliable O's, you’re either selfish or incompetent. Especially if you've been together for a long time![/quote]
I hate this kind of messaging. Not all women are able to O at a reliable degree. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with them, nor their partner. Sometimes it just doesn’t happen.

I didn’t marry my first, but might as well have been, I was very inexperienced. Part of the fun has been exploring and trying new things together over the years. We didn’t prioritize sex during the kid years, and it dropped off an awful lot. Now that they are a bit older, it’s easier and we have more time together, and have committed to re-prioritizing our marriage and sex life. It took me a long time before I could reliably O during intercourse; a combination of my own inexperience, not knowing what does it for me, but also rushing through the process. We’d set aside some time for it, but ended up rushing through just to “complete the task”. Check, we had sex this week. Better than nothing, but not fully satisfactory for either of us. What I’ve learned- if you have the time, make the time. If you make the time, take the time! Do the massage, take the bath, shower together, enjoy each other. Sex is a beautiful experience that you share together; it’s not something that is done to one or the other.

That said, don’t go looking for trouble where there is none. Why are you considering cheating? Is it just about sex or are you feeling unsatisfied in other aspects of the relationship? Women have so much crap on their shoulders daily, if your partner isn’t stepping up in other areas it might be poisoning the well so to speak. You can never know if what you have is the best; there are 8 billion other people on earth. Is someone a better lay than you/your spouse? Probably. Just like there is someone more beautiful, or with a better body, or smarter or richer or or or, etc etc etc. you chose your husband for a reason, don’t blow up your life because you think there is someone better out there. The grass is green where you water it. [/quote]

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