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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Definitely from very early on.  I've observed this each time with my 4 kids.  Kids want to be around good looking kids (not talking about my own but watching the social dynamics). [/quote]

And adults react differently to kids based on their looks, and subconsciously change their interactions with them. My DD had some very conventionally attractive children in her preschool class at a pk3-8th grade class and their popularity in HS had a linear relationship with how the teacher greeted them every morning in the hallway in 3s preschool. It is fascinating and awful all at once.

It makes a difference in the early grades even if I wish it didn’t. That early attention can create confidence and generate social approval that in turn creates popularity. It’s a self-perpetuating cycle.[/quote]

I think the preschool greeting is part looks and part personality- if a child smiles wide, makes eye contact, looks thrilled to see you, but is still polite and walking into class instead of acting crazy- you're going to greet them more enthusiastically.  Those are the kids who are social all stars, know how to act in different situations, and make people happy to see them.  Of course if that kid is pretty, the effect is intensified.  But are they pretty, or just clean and well dressed?  At 3, it can be hard to really know. [/quote]

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