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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, there are an equal number of complaints from Op's age group that parents ask too many questions, are too nosey or hurt someone's feelings with what is perceived as unsolicited advice.

Op, next visit, ahead of the next visit maybe you email with a friendly update on your news. That way there can be some prep for talking about it.[/quote]

Sure I could do that, but that kind of defeats the purpose of normal conversation and parents being interested in their own children.[/quote]

Lots of guilt tripping here. You all are off living your own lives, assumably not living lives with your parents. Hearing "updates" on what people are doing in their separate lives is exhausting and brings on feelings of powerlessness and lack of agency, that actually isn't living a life with someone. Find a way to exist with your parents. Live near them or vist to help them in their daily lives, so you don't have to have the meta talks about separate existences. You would instead have shared experiences. But, if what you really want is help--help making decision, help with childcare, help with marriage tensions, jus say you want help, and they can say yes or no. [/quote]

OP here. I just want to be able to have a normal back and forth conversation about our lives. I listen to her and engage but don't get the same in return, which makes for a frustrating relationship. I've asked my mom for help with childcare probably 5x in 10 years, so certainly not asking for help... not logistically, financially, emotionally. Just a normal back and forth conversation. As a parent, I just think it's super bizarre to not show any interest in your child's life.[/quote]

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