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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, there are an equal number of complaints from Op's age group that parents ask too many questions, are too nosey or hurt someone's feelings with what is perceived as unsolicited advice.

Op, next visit, ahead of the next visit maybe you email with a friendly update on your news. That way there can be some prep for talking about it.[/quote]

Sure I could do that, but that kind of defeats the purpose of normal conversation and parents being interested in their own children.[/quote]

Lots of guilt tripping here. You all are off living your own lives, assumably not living lives with your parents. Hearing "updates" on what people are doing in their separate lives is exhausting and brings on feelings of powerlessness and lack of agency, that actually isn't living a life with someone. Find a way to exist with your parents. Live near them or vist to help them in their daily lives, so you don't have to have the meta talks about separate existences. You would instead have shared experiences. But, if what you really want is help--help making decision, help with childcare, help with marriage tensions, jus say you want help, and they can say yes or no. [/quote]

You’ve obviously never dealt with narcissistic, self involved parents or in laws before. [/quote]

I disagree with your pretense so you comment makes no sense to me.

[b]You.have chosen to live a life separate from your parents[/b]. Your narration about your life choices is not a life for them. Modern technology lets us talk at each other but not exist together. You all here make big adult decisions on your own, why would your parents want to hear chatter about them?[/quote]

I don’t care to engage with someone who is not capable of thinking of what something might be like from someone else’s perspective so this will be my last reply to you but you know nothing about my life. And also to your other point, why would my parents want to hear about my life? Maybe because they should be interested in me/their adult children and their grandchildren. I certainly am very interested in my kids so I know for sure I’ll never act the way my parents do (totally disinterested and bored) when my kids tell me about their lives. [/quote]

You are very clear on the set in stone checklist of what parents should do for you since you procreate.  What is on the set in stone checklist of what you do for your parents?[/quote]

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