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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These issues happened in the 70s and 80s. I would hope we’ve come a long way since then. Not sure why it would prevent OP doing “ any international adoption” now it’s 2025. 
OP are you actually looking to adopt? 
Our 12yo is adopted and thriving. We used a reputable agency in the dmv, we’re not rich, and no profit was made by anyone. [/quote]

I think the point is that all those folks adopting in the 70s and 80s also thought their adoptions were legitimate, and that they were doing right by their child and the child's first family. Unless you speak the local language and have engaged directly with the first family, it's really hard to know what's happening behind the scenes. [/quote]

I think there was a lot of willful ignorance on the part of desperate adoptive parents. China in the strict one-child policy era might be the only exception.  Otherwise, I think many healthy baby international adoptions were the result of coercion or fraud.  [/quote]

This. It's extremely common in international adoption to never meet the birth parents, or to be told the birth parents are dead. The idea that fraud can't enter into that scenario because you used a "reputable agency" is simply denialism. Poor people do desperate things because they are poor. Any system with money changing hands can have grift. Almost any international adoption runs a risk of abuse.[/quote]

It is not just international adoptions. It's happening right here in the US, too. With the advent of private adoptions, there are all kinds of shady deals going on which tend to exploit young mothers/fathers and get them to agree to give up their child to the wonderful, happy and WEALTHIER couple who will just be perfect parents.

There IS money being dangled at these young mothers (especially) and there are clever ways to disguise it so it appears legal. Plus they are told they can continue to have a relationship with their child because it will all be "open."

Until it isn't. Adoptive parents can legally stop the access to the child at any time.

I don't think there have been many comprehensive longitudinal studies on what the effects are of "open" adoptions. (That weren't paid for by adoption industry.) Add in the money-to-mom factor, and there have got to be some psychological impacts  even if it doesn't manifest right away. [/quote]

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