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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What exactly do you mean by “partner comes first”?

“Partner comes first” as in my spouse had an absolutely horrible day and would like me to stay home and keep him company instead of going out with friends?

I mean, can you elaborate? [/quote]

Households where the couple prioritizes themselves oftentimes with the thoughts that the children will one day move on and they will be left with each other. Ive also seen people blog about it as a Religious thing too, where its God first then husband/wife then children hierarchy. [/quote]

That’s just one narrow way of looking at it. The other more common sense approach is the spousal relationship is they keystone of the family and should be the focus instead of becoming child-focused. It is indisputable that this is the best way to parent and that has nothing to do with religion. It’s just common sense. [/quote]

I guess I just grew up with functioning adults but I seriously do not understand this concept. Why would any adults have that many needs that they would constantly be interfering with childrens needs? My parents got their own needs met and made an effort to please each other with my dad working late and my mom doing stuff for him but they didn't have a lot of needs they couldn't handle themselves. It was more like when there wasnt a need of anyone else they catered to each other. I also felt very unloved because they were so hands off. It wasn't that close of a family from parent to child but at least I didn't get the impression that I needed to be my spouse's helper before a child. To me kids needs, spouses needs, spouses wants, kids wants makes most sense. [/quote]

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