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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These issues happened in the 70s and 80s. I would hope we’ve come a long way since then. Not sure why it would prevent OP doing “ any international adoption” now it’s 2025. 
OP are you actually looking to adopt? 
Our 12yo is adopted and thriving. We used a reputable agency in the dmv, we’re not rich, and no profit was made by anyone. [/quote]

I think the point is that all those folks adopting in the 70s and 80s also thought their adoptions were legitimate, and that they were doing right by their child and the child's first family. Unless you speak the local language and have engaged directly with the first family, it's really hard to know what's happening behind the scenes. [/quote]

I think there was a lot of willful ignorance on the part of desperate adoptive parents. China in the strict one-child policy era might be the only exception.  Otherwise, I think many healthy baby international adoptions were the result of coercion or fraud.  [/quote]

This. It's extremely common in international adoption to never meet the birth parents, or to be told the birth parents are dead. The idea that fraud can't enter into that scenario because you used a "reputable agency" is simply denialism. Poor people do desperate things because they are poor. Any system with money changing hands can have grift. Almost any international adoption runs a risk of abuse.[/quote]

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