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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What sort of work does your wife do, OP? Is it related to her education or work before kids?

I went back to work after being in a similar situation to what you’re describing and frankly, it sucks, but I do it to help out financially. I had to start at the bottom and am slowly working my way back up basically being the office mule. This is after spending most of my adult life supporting DH in his career with our family relocating multiple times allowing him to build an executive-level profile. He’s where he wants to be career-wise and I’m starting from scratch reporting to people 20 years younger who act like they have all the answers.

To all the people who talk about the OPs spouse having so much time to relax, yes, it is easier being a stay at home spouse, but I wouldn’t call it relaxing. OP has 3 kids. That’s a crap ton of work.

Regardless, OP’s spouse is out of line saying that he ruined her life. It sounds like they lead a pretty privileged life and she’s taking it for granted. [/quote]

And whomever harps that raising teens is easier and less hours and less work is full of it.

The amount of emotional support, monitoring, guidance, and coaching they need in this world of online content, social media, finding sports & club programs, friend changes, dating or not, college tours, and keeping them grounded (or “based” as they say now), is not insignificant. At all. [/quote]

I agree with this, but it’s about emotional intensity not about a number of hours. My high schoolers are incredibly busy and sometimes are out of the house for much longer than I am.   So it is okay to ask what the wife is doing the rest of the time.

Also the kids are out of the school in a few years, why would anyone get to justify not working after that?[/quote]

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