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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was trying to advocate for my kid. She spent the afternoon alone crying while three friends were off having fun; how is that in any way fair? I am on the fence with how to respond to this girl's mother. She just responded with a "heart" emoji on my text and said, "I'm sorry she felt left out. Three kids is my max for playdate supervision. Hope we can see you soon." Not even an invite or any kind of ownership of the behavior.
Maybe I am being insecure or irrational but seeing your kid in tears, left out, visibly, hurts.[/quote]

You said it. You are completely irrational. 
1. This is not how you advocate for a child. You step in when your child is being mistreated. "No, you can't play because you're ugly/fat/poor/jewish/black." You step in when your child's boundaries aren't being respected. "DD said she doesn't want hugs. You need to let go of her or I will take your hands off her."
2. Your time would have been better spent pointing out to DD that she can only have so many people over for playdates and all over the world there are kids she hasn't invited over each day. It'd be pretty silly if every single girl in the world tried to fit into your house. Then you should have distracted your DD with the things she normally does after school when not having a playdate.
3. The other mother's response to your inappropriate text was very gracious. THERE IS NOTHING TO OWN. And after what you texted, I wouldn't invite your daughter (because you seem high maintenance) either. 
4. Kids cry. It's how they express sadness and frustration (and sometimes anger). Get over it. You absorbed a small child's feelings and adapted them as your own. Totally inappropriate. [/quote]

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