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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was trying to advocate for my kid. [b]She spent the afternoon alone crying while three friends were off having fun; how is that in any way fair?[/b] I am on the fence with how to respond to this girl's mother. She just responded with a "heart" emoji on my text and said, "I'm sorry she felt left out. Three kids is my max for playdate supervision. Hope we can see you soon." Not even an invite or any kind of ownership of the behavior.
Maybe I am being insecure or irrational but seeing your kid in tears, left out, visibly, hurts.[/quote]

It's 100000000% fair that sometimes you go on playdates and sometimes you do not.  This playdate was not a thing that was "done" to your daughter.  She is not the main character.  Kids are allowed to have other friends.

You say NOTHING to the other mom, who has no reason to ever invite you to her home and has no "behavior" to own up to in this interaction - she did nothing wrong.  You are completely out of line trying to frame her as the villain of the story, and you are escalating something (your daughter's upset) that any decent parent would have known to deescalate.

When your kid is in tears because her feelings were hurt even though NO ONE DID ANYTHING WRONG you sympathize that sometimes it's hard to see other kids having fun without you, and then ask what she wants to do - invite them over another time?  Invite a different friend over for fun?  Bake something, watch a movie?  You don't play into the victim complex by telling her she's been wronged when she hasn't and "advocate" for her by accusing someone of hurting her when they did nothing of the sort.  The other mom is not a bad actor.  But with each post you seem like a worse one.[/quote]

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