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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter was invited to a sleepover at the home of a child whose parents I don't know well.  It's also a boy and her understanding is that the other invitees are all boys.  This is for a birthday party.  The children are 9 and 10 years old.  I told her she cannot go because I don't know the parents well.  She is very upset.  She thinks I'm lying and it's because I will miss her!  I told her it's about safety, but I do think I should explain this better.  I don't want to tell her I think the dad or any of the boys could sexually assault her! Although in addition, I won't let her spend the night with people I don't know well for other safety reasons -- I have no idea how they run their home and what their safety rules would be at a party with a group of kids.  I'm just not comfortable with it.  I would let her stay at the party until the sleeping part and then come home.  Anyway, when you tell your children they can't sleep over, what do you tell them is the reason.  She's only 8, by the way.  (Which feels like an additional reason this is a bad idea, but I also mention it re what to tell her.  She's young and naive.)[/quote]

If you want to tell them the truth, you tell them mommy is an anxious mess who doesn't trust anyone and is afraid you will be hurt at someone else's house.  Please get some therapy, as the vast majority of sleepovers are a fun childhood ritual[/quote]

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