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[quote=Anonymous]My mother has serious issues and is in denial about them, which meant I had to create geographic and emotional distance between us as soon as I could leave her house in early adulthood. She did not appreciate my independence and there was a time in my 30s when I had to cut her off, because she started on my young daughter, and I wasn't having any of that. To her credit, she understood that this was a line she couldn't cross and she became a better diplomat. We now have a good long-distance relationship. I KNOW that if we live together again, the relationship will crater just like it did when I was a teen living in her house. She cannot stop herself from being hypercritical and verbally abusive to anyone under her roof. My father is her first victim. But long-distance, with short visits, is fine.

So now on to your case: you seem like an honest protagonist, OP. I cannot tell from here if your daughter has diagnosable issues (like one of my friends' daughters, who sadly has a personality disorder and makes herself extremely disagreeable to her parents and sibling), in which case you will have lifelong challenges with her; or whether this is her time to detach emotionally and grow into a more mature, more loving adult. Adolescence and young adulthood is the time when schizophrenia and other serious disorders can develop.

I hope it's not that she's been abused by a third party and is taking it out on you, for some reason.

Hang in there, OP. 
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