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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not easy to be a 50 yo woman with no professional identity. [/quote]

Yes!!!
Thank you for point this out! So hard!  It was literally and identity crisis. [/quote]

I can see that happening.

Since I am a non-White highly educated immigrant and do not follow the American cultural norms, I had literally zero identity crisis in being a SAHM.  My ILs, my parents, kids, DH - everyone was grateful and continue to be so. Being a SAHM was considered a sacrifice for someone like me who had multiple college degrees and a good career. Because, even when I was working, I was still parenting and taking care of the household.  It was only that when I became a SAHM, I could solely concentrate on my kids and household. So the sacrifice of my career was impacting only me. 
My earnings were not significant compared to my DH.  And my quitting or working did not derail us financially.

But, I would have had a huge identity crisis and feeling of inadequacy if my kids were not thriving in their academics,  ECs, health, career, personal life,  social connections, hobbies etc.  That remains the reason that DH and I even now prioritize being connected as a family with our adult children so that we can be of help to them and their families.

Being a SAHM is considered being the X-factor in our family's success. [/quote]

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