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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tell the ski area on him and if they refuse to sell him a lift pass, so be it. Stop paying for him to ski, and don't pay any medical expenses either.

You can get insurance for helicopter rescue costs. And disability insurance on someone his age might not be super costly.[/quote]

So basically you would just send them message that you will stop loving your child if they don't fall in line.  Got it!

I wouldn't recommend that.[/quote]

I mean the injury-related medical expenses. But yes, if he wants to make his own decisions then he can pay his own expenses. Bankrolling and enabling someone isn't what love requires. You can love him without enabling irresponsible and destructive behavior.[/quote]

I'm sorry you don't know what love feels like.  What you describe is not it.[/quote]

That's insane. Adults make their own choices and handle their own consequences. That's what it means to be an adult. I certainly will not be buying him a lift ticket so that he can endanger himself and others. Nor would I pay to help him avoid the consequences of his choices. That's how you raise an entitled, destructive man-child. Not an adult. It's not a loving thing to do. The loving thing to do is to have reasonable boundaries to help him grow up into someone who's alive, who has his body and brain mostly intact, and to teach him that choices have consequences. It doesn't mean I wouldn't visit him in the hospital. But you're really harming your children if you don't allow them to learn real-life lessons.[/quote]

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