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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A custody evaluator is NOT your therapist. That’s the thing you need to know going into one. Tell them facts, preferably ones that can be verified by others, and if you have to mention feelings do it briefly and neutrally.

If you need a therapist to vent and cry to about it get one. Do NOT act like the custody evaluator cares about you at all. They’re just writing a report.

I had one that went very well (another state, years ago), because I just told him what happened. No feelings, just facts. He saw the kid, kid was fine (also kid was a baby, so couldn’t talk other than saying Bus or Cat), and my ex tried to feed a lot of BS (like said I breastfed for too long, so the guy asked about nursing and I said “yes baby is still nursing, and eating solids 2-3x per day but he’s been a little slow to get enough calories from it so he’s still nursing X times a day” - the evaluator said that it was still developmentally appropriate to be nursing and he wasn’t concerned).

But I only gave facts. I didn’t get emotional. I didn’t say anything negative about my ex - I let the guy draw his own conclusions based on the facts I gave him. [/quote]

It’s inappropriate to refuse custody to the child’s dad over breastfeeding.  [/quote]

As long as you think the father’s wishes are of greater import than the best interests of the child standard, sure.

Or the child is 3+[/quote]

Mom can pump or child can use formula at dad’s house.  That is alienation to the core.  Dads are just as capable as moms and under three is prime bonding time.  If you keep these dads out of their kids lives in the early years with made up excuses don’t be surprised when they give up and stop trying.  Yes, dads wanting to be in their child’s life trumps breastfeeding.  And after one, kids should be on solids.  Kids van start solids at 4-6 months.  That is about mom’s needs, not the child’s.  [/quote]

None of this is the best pediatric guidance, which says breastfeeding to two, kids *start* solids no earlier than one.

So again, why do you think dad’s convenience trumps the best interests of the child? He can come get baby between feedings. [/quote]

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