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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I totally get it. If you are a troll, you are doing a good job of imitating the vibe in this area.

My husband and I both went to an Ivy and our oldest got into top schools. Are second is a decent student but "DCUMbelow average." (I have actually posted about our family's admissions journey because the funny thing is that the second one has been much more fun and much less stressful since he pretty much only applied to safeties and targets. He has gotten a couple deferrals and all the rest acceptances.)

In any case, I am aware of people's expectations when they ask questions. For me, the key was changing my own limited perspective. I am not accusing you, but I was definitely guilty of considering only a select few schools. (Not openly or to other people, that's just incredibly rude/priveleged/dumbout-of-touch, but for my family.) Then, watching my kids become their own people has changed my perspective. When I helped my second kid research colleges, I found schools I had never heard of that really matched his goals and preferences. I am not pretending he would get into an Ivy if he wanted - he absolutely wouldn't. But even if he were admitted by mistake, it would be that: a mistake. He would be totally miserable. Researching schools with him, I fell in love with a couple schools that I think will help him achieve his goals. He fell in love with a couple other schools. He was accepted at both of our top choices and now will visit again and choose.

Going back to your question, I am so genuinely happy for my kid that I think neighbors and friends respond to that and have been so supportive and celebratory. And of course, people come out of the woodwork to say their nephew goes to the same place and loves it, etc.

So, I think the big change is from within. Also, it helps that if someone were to respond in a snooty way, I'd just think, "they don't know what's best for my kid, so who cares." [/quote]

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