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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok. I'm sorry that your husband is like this. At least he does the chores?

I think you need to first focus on making your own life manageable. 1) Meal routine and routine grocery list. 2) Lay in a supply of quick frozen food so that you're never needing DoorDash. That will take the pressure off dinner which seems like it's a real struggle point for you.

It's a red flag to me that you say "everyone vetoed my suggestions." Kids don't get a veto! You're the adult, you decide the food and that's that. They can eat it or not eat it. Stop trying to have a happy family where people cheerfully cooperate-- that's not in the cards for you right now. Instead, shoot for a family life that's manageable FOR YOU, where your and the kids' *needs* are met.

It really does sound like your DH is depressed. No executive functioning ability, really tired, no enthusiasm for things... yep.  [/quote]

I agree with this.  I think you are fundamentally going to need to accept your role as the family CEO.  There is no way you are going to be able to change him. The fact that he will happily do whatever you assign to him is huge. Embrace that and embrace routine.  Every Monday is pasta, every Tuesday is grilled chicken, etc.   Agree on lay in some supplies of frozen meals for backup. My kids are teens and my DH is retired and I still do that.  Find some niche your husband can handle and is interested in: handling home repairs, handing the cars, whatever it might be. [/quote]

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