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[quote=Anonymous]I learned this technique to help your brain get past an injustice.

You write 3 letters with a pen on paper.

LETTER 1: Address this to the bad boss. Tell him how unfair he was, how crappy he made you feel, how he took advantage of your inexperience, etc.  Use every and any $&@&# word you feel like.  Get angry and emotional, tell him how he has made you feel thinking of this for years and years.

LETTER 2: Address this to yourself from the bad boss. Write the letter as if you are the bad boss who now realizes what a terrible thing he did.  Have him tell you it wasn't fair and he is ashamed that he did this thing so many years ago that hurt you.  Have him apologize that it has affected you in such a deep way and that you did not deserve that. Have him ask you for your forgiveness.

LETTER 3: Address this back to the bad boss.  This letter is short and you thank him for realizing what a jerk he was and that you accept his apology.

Letter 1 is to let your brain dump all the emotion and anger and say every harsh thing you have been thinking.  It will be cathartic to put this on paper. It can go on for pages and pages!

Letter 2 is to give your brain the apology it needs to hear and deserves to hear.  It doesn't matter that bad boss didn't actually write it.  Seeing and hearing the words on paper that bad boss should be saying will help your brain process this injustice and heal.

Letter 3 is to let your brain have a conclusion. You were mistreated, you were heard, you were apologized to and you now accept their apology.

Last step: Burn all 3 letters!

This actually worked when I couldn't get over how badly an ex had treated me.  I thought the experiment was hokey when I first heard about it, but I did it anyway and was amazed at how it freed my brain from ruminating about something that happened years ago.
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