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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FWIW I've been in relationships throughout my life where I felt abandoned and my partner's actions would regularly spark feelings of abandonment in me. I was convinced that I was overly sensitive and needed anti-anxiety meds or something to handle normal romantic relationships. But then I met my current partner, and in almost a year of being exclusive, I've never once felt "abandoned" by him. Unlike every other man I've been with, he is really great at "using his words" and kindly saying that he doesn't want to do X when I suggest it, or[b] that he feels differently about a political issue. [/b]He disagrees with me often and he says no to things I want. But he does it in a way that makes it crystal clear that he 100% wants to be with me, and that this is just one small thing where we disagree. I imagine that if we disagreed about something like a child's education, he'd be the first to suggest that we set aside a few hours to really share with one another what is under the surface of our opinions.

My tendency is to argue my points and marshal evidence to make it clear that I'm "right" and he is great at calling me out on that, but in a gentle and loving way. I share all this to say that it's very possible that you're not necessarily too sensitive. But what does seem to be true is that you two handle your differences differently, and you might need to be the "adult" here who stops the negative cycle. [/quote]
haha.. I'm a PP DW who is more like the DH.

This morning, DH said something about politics, and I disagreed with him, and he got mad because he said I always disagreed with whatever he says.  I told him, "Yes, I disagree with you sometimes, and if you say something to me and I disagree with it, I will verbalize it".

DH is much more sensitive than I am sometimes.  We do seem to have opposite roles (wife/husband) at times.  [/quote]

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