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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 15yo son has awful ADHD and it affects his performance in school tremendously. We've tried many many things to help, but still don't have a handle on it. Lately he has really been blowing off homework, despite us trying to help and be on top of it. He asked me recently to back off and let him handle it. So, since getting back to school this month, I have. I looked yesterday and he's missing multiple assignments in every single class. He's had time to do them and has chosen not to. I recognize it's hard for him to get started, but he's also not asking for help or using the strategies he's been taught to be successful. And yes, he's on meds.

Anyway, today he has his weekly high school ski club Friday night trip. We told him last night that he couldn't go because he has too much missing work. He didn't take us seriously and then this morning when it was time to go to school, he tried to gather all of his ski stuff and go to the car. We said no. This back and forth went on for 10 mins and escalated. He wouldn't listen, said he was going, argued, yelled, pushed my husband when my husband tried to take his snowboard out of his hands. Got ugly. We held our ground and he finally gave up and stormed off to the car to go to school.

Now I feel sick over what happened and am questioning if I should have let him go and just made him skip all other fun things this weekend instead. I'm worried about how he's feeling right now, I'm worried about how it will be after school, and it all just feels awful. I know he needs to learn that he cannot blow off schoolwork and that this can't happen again, but I'm feeling awful that we took this away from him tonight. Were we too harsh?[/quote]

Pushing your husband is an automatic warning the next time anything like that happens he will be sent to military school.

Do not let him use ADHD as a crutch or an excuse.[/quote]

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