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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to think of your kid(s) and what this dynamic is doing to your household. Not sure if you have a spouse but why in the world are you spending three months out of your house? That is just ridiculous.

I realized after getting stuck with my mother with dementia that many seniors are incredibly selfish. They never had to take care of their parents or if they did it was briefly because they didn’t live long. They expect the world to revolve around them.

I gradually got sucked into doing more and more for three years.  Then after that for two years I spent do many evenings with my mother instead of my husband and kids. It was never enough for her. Finally my sister in law and brother called me and said they went to visit and our mom did was complain about me. I was bossy, I didn't spend enough time there, etc.

She was in an assisted living apartment and they were eating in the restaurant with our Mon and one of her neighbors. Finally the neighbor interrupted and said she wasn’t being fair to me. That I was there almost every day. But ti my mother my siblings were so devoted and the golden kids.

I decided that was my limit. I pulled back and rarely visit now. I am never getting f back those two years [/quote]

Not op but thank you for this. Made me feel less alone about what I endured before I pulled back. So much of what you wrote resonates.[/quote]

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