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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had mine at 30 and 35. I wish I had pushed it back a few years and had just one. I think one kid around 35-38 is perfect. [/quote]

PP. Want to add - this is because I know a few women who focused on their careers, make a ton of money, and then had a single child around 38-42. They’re the happiest moms I know - financially secure, zero stress, able to focus on their child 100%, etc.

The young parents I know are usually pretty miserable. Money is very tight, they end up having more kids than they can reasonable care for, very stressed out overall. Worst cases I’ve seen are when they start very young and around 24 hereditary mental illness develops in one of the parents. Absolute nightmare. I know one couple who were picture perfect, the husband had a good job, very loving traditional family with 2 kids, beautiful home, and at 24 he developed bipolar disorder. Within a year he had sexually harassed coworkers, gotten fired without telling his wife, ran up $30k in credit card debt, began beating his wife and kids.

So I’m very against getting married or having children before 25 or so, just so you can make sure nobody has any genetic mental illness that can’t really be treated. [/quote]

[b]I know adults who are the onlies and they have a lot of pressure to care for elderly parents[/b]. Also lots of guilt over holidays.

I personally think having siblings is better for the child for multiple reasons.

Having an only older in age is probably best from a work life balance perspective for a working mom.[/quote]

I know adult with 2-3 siblings, and more often than not care for elderly parents gets dumped on one of the kids, usually the one who lives the closest and/or has the oldest kids ("we have young kids and can't help" or "we live too far away and can't take off work" are common excuses).

Parents should have planned for their own care. With only one kid, they should be putting away more money for their care. [/quote]

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