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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks all for weighing in. I’ll be extra sweet and complimentary next time I see them.

To clarify a few things:
My DC is almost 8 weeks old and over 9 pounds.

Neighbors know he was a preemie. I truly do not believe she meant to be rude or hurtful, and by no means do I feel justified to say something that might be perceived as rude about her kid. The use of “ridiculous” (although in the privacy of our own home) was unfortunate, as I truly didn’t mean anything negative by it – big foot in loud mouth. If anything, admiration and a bit of envy is what I felt. I do think the neighbors are really nice, and their kid looks healthy and adorable (nothing ridiculous about how he looks).

It seems that ppl who are moms of preemies and size-challenged babies get it. I acknowledge this is my insecurity, and my issue, coming after a complicated pregnancy with IUGR (during which I kept hearing how tiny my bump was), and after months of wondering what the F is wrong with my body that it did not nourish my child properly and ‘ejected’ him preterm. I’m not saying the world has to cater to me, know all this and pretend DC isn’t tiny; just explaining where I’m coming from and pointing out why these comments were annoying and hurtful when he was a newborn. And now, after so many sleepless nights, and overcoming all the health and feeding challenges specific to a preemie, I was feeling so proud that DC doubled his birth weight and reached 9 lbs way ahead of schedule, so I didn’t think he stood out as ‘tiny’ anymore. Hearing her say that her baby was so big from the beginning and she’s never seen one so tiny irked me, but I do not hold it against her, and it was definitely not my intention to offend her/ her DC in turn.
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