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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have money, there are homes/communities for people who can’t live alone. Sorry I don’t know their names, but there is a good one in Florida.

Perhaps a local Trusts and Estates lawyer would know of options (since old people with only one/a disabled child, also face this challenge.) Good luck to you all. [/quote]

Thank you. Unfortunately, we are limited to the DC area. My parents have asked various professionals (legal, clinical, etc) over the years, [b]and everyone is stumped on a solution.[/b] [/quote]

I'm a psychologist and find this hard to believe. More likely your parents were presented with (less than ideal) options that they rejected but perhaps need to consider again. I would look for either a therapist or "transition to adulthood" specialist who can meet with your family and break it down for your sister: your parents are going to be in a nursing home within a few years and she will need to do all the things in order to live by herself. Along the way, that person can share that if things like working are tough for her there are resources, like disability, supported employment, group homes, that can help, but she has to go through the application process which will include an evaluation. If she refuses, eventually her choices will be things like eviction from their home and living in homeless shelters. Obviously none of this is ideal or easy, but unless you have the desire to bring her into your home, or the resources to fund a never ending string of apartments and personal support workers, it is much better for your sister for you all the face some of the harsh realities of the situation now.

I do* live in DC so I don't have any specific professionals to recommend. You might ask on the special needs board. You could also check for resources on NAMI, or maybe Autism Speaks.[/quote]

*don't live in DC[/quote]

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